WHERE DO YOU MEET PEOPLE!?
So now that Canada Day has passed, all the frauds can finally stop pretending like they love this country – those same people are long-distance dating some random man/woman in the States somewhere. Now for the rest of us who genuinely love this country, I’m sure we can all agree that it’s great to get away and travel but there is no place like home.
If you are unaware of who I am or what I do, the majority of the content I create and discuss is relationship related. As a result, I am often asked for my opinion on various issues – I do not consider myself a relationship guru in any way, but I’ve witnessed enough to know some shit. A certain question has continued to come up in my recent conversations with people, so I figured this must be a thing a lot of people are having issues with - “Where do you meet people!?”
CLUB
THE CLUB IS FOR FUCKING! Just wanted to get that card on the table before we go any further. The club is not the place to find your future husband or wife. The club is a place you go to let loose at the end of the week (sometimes during the week for those of you who don’t like sleep), not to engaged in intellectual conversation and get to know someone. I’m not at the club to have long conversations – I can barely hear you anyway. Realistically, any number you pick up at the club while you’re drunk or sober is not a number you should take seriously – if you decide to take it seriously, don’t get mad when that shit turns to dust in 2 months.
GYM
I’m not the best person to give you advice about the gym because you won’t find me in there – so if you’re a gymhead and know if the gym is a good place to meet people, let me know and I’ll pass it on.
MALL
In high school, the mall was the place to be to socialize and meet new people – but now as an adult, hell no. The only thing that should be happening at the mall is shopping and eating. IN AND OUT. There is the rare time you may see someone attractive walk by you – but what are you going to do chase them? Stalk all the stores they go into? Stop it. This is not the place to meet people anymore. Usually you’re at the mall for a purpose, and it’s not to have conversation – you also probably went there dressed like a homeless person because well… it’s the mall.
STREET
Now this is the tricky one because I’ve met some great people on the street; however, it can be risky and not give you the best representation due to others that have ruined it before you. The street is a great place to spark up a conversation with a stranger that caught your eye. First, you need to acknowledge the circumstances of this approach – are they walking fast? Are they on the phone? Do they have bags in their hands? These types of observations are grounds for ABORT FUCKING MISSION. You don’t want those problems. Now, if they are standing alone or watching a street attraction of some sort… YOU NEED TO FUCKING SAY HELLO! This is the calmest you will ever find a person. If you can’t talk to someone when they are doing absolutely nothing, I can’t help you.
VACATION
Before you read this part… If you never travel, just skip this section. In most cases, wherever you decided to go on vacation, there will be other people from your hometown also on vacation. But you will never know unless you speak to people – A LOT OF PEOPLE. You’re on vacation to relax, enjoy great weather, and MINGLE. That is what vacations are for. Get to know people in a new environment – you have nothing to lose… YOU’RE NOT FROM HERE! Nobody cares if you get rejected from some random person across the water. This is your opportunity to try new things. See what works and what doesn’t. You should use vacations to get out of your comfort zone – you may learn some things about yourself that you can use when you return home.
FRIENDS
Meeting people through friends might actually be the best option. We all have a single friend. Don’t be afraid to ask your friends if they have single friends also looking to meet someone – there is nothing wrong with a friend playing matchmaker. They know you better than most people, so you should be able to trust them to know what you like. Another benefit of meeting through a friend, is that the ice is mostly broken already. You both have someone in common that knows the both of you – this means if they are friends with both of you, you can feel safe knowing that the other typically is a good person.
SOCIAL MEDIA
I saved this one for last because… Well… It’s social fucking media. Meeting people online works and doesn’t work. It’s basically relationship roulette. The act of starting a conversation through text and images is still strange to me, but obviously extremely common. The problem with Instagram, Twitter, Tinder and all that shit, is that you are meeting people’s highlight reels – then you are basing your decision solely on what you THINK they represent… Only to find out sometimes as short as weeks later, they are NOTHING CLOSE to who you thought they were. I can’t knock social media too much because I have met a few good girlfriends through it. Even though I am no longer with those women, I can’t attribute that the failures were due to meeting through social media.
CONCLUSION
Did this even help you? I hope it did. It can definitely get frustrating not being able to find someone actually worth your time, but the key is to not actively search. Sounds cliché and you probably think I’m talking shit, but I’m being serious. Some of the best people (not only women) I’ve met in my life happened organically. Continue to work on yourself, try new things and places, travel, and just be open with your friends about what you’re looking for – you never know… The right person for you may in fact be the one looking for you.
